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Happy Holidays from all of us at Mental Edge! May this season be
filled with love, joy and peace for your family. Shaun, Dawn,
Justin, Shannon, Jessica, Cindy and Brian
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Announcements
90-Day Challenge for Parents
The Mental Edge has launched a 90-day Challenge for any parent that
wants to revitalize and increase the quality of relationship with
his or her kids by being a better asker of quality questions. Each
month we will provide 5 or more quality questions to help you make
bids toward your son or daughter. Please email
Dawn@MentalEdgeNow.com
to accept the challenge!
Mental Edge Roles Out High Impact Academic
Mentoring
The Mental Edge is really excited about our New High Impact Academic
Mentoring! If your child struggles academically or simply wants to
have an edge or fine-tune a skill set, this one-on-one Academic
Mentoring will help provide him/her with the tips and strategies to
succeed! See Shannon Tilley’s article below and our Services Page
for more information on the program and Shannon’s impressive
experience as an Academic Mentor.
Mental Edge Maintenance Program
Have you mentored with the Mental Edge yet would like an opportunity
to keep in contact with your Mental Edge Coach? We are please to
announce our High Impact Maintenance Program! You can get unlimited
phone, text, and email contact with your coach on a monthly basis
for $275.00. Please call Dawn at 763-439-5246 to begin. Open to all
past mentoring clients!
Did you know
we offer complimentary 30-minute telephone
initial consultations? If
you or someone you know would like a first-hand experience of what
we are all about, simply call Dawn to schedule your no-obligation
consultation with Shaun or Justin today! |
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Confidence is Within
Your Control
Shaun Goodsell, MA
One of the most common topics that I get asked about from players,
coaches, and parents has to do with confidence.
The questions I get vary as people attempt to understand this
seemingly misunderstood concept. I would like to pull three of the
most common questions I get and respond to them in a attempt to
bring greater clarity for those seeking to develop confidence, as
well as, understand the role of confidence in understanding
performance.
1. Is confidence a critical factor in how
someone performs?
Although confidence plays a part in impacting how an athlete
performs, what is more critical is how masterful an athlete has
become concerning the foundational skills of the sport they play.
What is true is that an athlete develops a great deal of confidence
based on how effective they feel they have been at developing and
mastering skills that allow them to compete with those they play
against. If an athlete hasn't invested the time, energy, and
dedication to practicing the skills needed to experience success
then confidence should not be a "right". Therefore, what is
important to performance has more to do more with skill development
than confidence.
2. When my son/daughter seems to lack
confidence is the antidote encouragement?
The answer to this is maybe. I believe we have become a culture
(especially with our kids) that believes the answer for every
problem is encouragement. Certainly our kids need optimistic,
positive people in their life, however, they also need "truth
tellers" that are able to communicate truthful statements in
optimistic and positive ways to help them build a healthy self
perception built on better "truth". Telling an athlete they played
well when they didn't does nothing to build their confidence, in
fact, it confirms in the mind of many that adults just tell kids
things to make them feel better. This actually erodes the
possibility of confidence because of the credibility that is lost.
The last question is: What helps to grow
self-confidence?
I want to start by saying that confidence can be compartmentalized
into different life interests. Example; I can be confident in my
ability to understand a persons emotional pain and have zero
confidence in my ability to build shelves for my garage. My lack of
confidence in building doesn't compromise my overall confidence as a
person it simply means I have not developed the skills associated
with building shelves. With this example as a guide I believe the
inner belief in oneself that we label as confidence is created,
grown, and developed when we invest time, energy, interest, and
genetic cooperation to develop what it takes to perform effectively
in competitive situations. Because of this, I believe developing
true confidence is, in reality, within all of our control. I hope
the clarification around this often-used topic is helpful.
If there are other topics that you would like to see articles around
please let us know.
To find out more about this topic and to schedule a free
telephone consultation, please call 763.439.5246.
Shaun Goodsell
President and CEO
Mental Edge
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Practice with a
Purpose
Justin Johnson, Mental Edge Performance
Coach
Great practice habits and dedication to skill development are
indicators of one’s mental approach. This means with the right
mental approach you can ensure quality and efficient use of your
precious time and energy for each and every hour of practice you
have this season. Throughout my playing career there was one
constant in my locker stall. It was simply a piece of tape with the
message “Get Better Today”. A quick glance was all I needed to put
myself into the mindset to focus on my development. It was my cue to
practice with a purpose so I could make gains on the competition.
Now that I’m a coach I compare practices through out the season to
riding an escalator. If you show up and put in an average effort;
that is, working hard enough that you won’t be accused of being
lazy, then you will likely make small gains in your development at
the pace of everyone else around you. Much like stepping onto an
escalator and letting it take you upward. But what happens if you
walk up a couple steps… or even run up an escalator? You surpass all
those heading in the same direction and you reach your goals ahead
of them.
Below are two ways to enhance your mental approach towards practice
so that you can increase the distance on your competition.
Having a Plan
Planning, as skill or personality trait, comes easier for some than
for others. So, for those of you who wince at the idea of a planned
out weekly calendar applied to your practice schedule… relax and
keep reading. Having a plan speaks more to the idea that you are
going to spend a few moments prior to practice to establish a
purpose or goal for your efforts that day. Inspiration of such a
purpose may come from the type of performance from your last game to
something you watched a pro or college player do last night on
television. Your purpose for practice may be as broad as compete
until the end on each play, or as specific as maintaining balance on
a specific move. The goal to having a personal plan for practice is
to resist the all too easy habit of slipping into a comfort zone.
Resist becoming a mindless zombie simply showing up and taking up
space for the day.
For those of you who are detail oriented and planning comes easily
to you, I encourage you to write down your plan for the day as well
as how you felt it went or any noteworthy thoughts or tips on your
practice afterwards. This will enhance your development and give you
a record to refer back to throughout the season and your career.
Become Dynamic
Secondly, if sports, or life for that matter, teach us anything it
is that even the best-laid plans need to be changed from time to
time. As an athlete you must adapt to the play of the game and you
must be ready to adapt in practice as well when the initial plan of
what skill you’re going to work on doesn’t fall in line with what
the coach has planned. Rather than holding rigid to your previous
plan, thus wasting a practice, see it as an opportunity to work on
another part of your game. The ability to be dynamic allows you to
develop regardless of what opportunities are presented to you in
practice.
When you become dynamic then you hold the key to your development.
It is your responsibility to find a purpose for practice not the
coaches. The moment you adopt a purposeful mental approach to
practice is the moment you begin to run up the escalator. I
challenge each of you as athletes looking for an edge to leave the
competition behind this year by choosing to run up the escalator!
For more information on this topic or to schedule a complimentary
30-minute telephone consultation with Justin, please call Dawn at
763
To find out more about this topic and to schedule a free
telephone consultation, please call 763.439.5246.
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What They're
Saying about the Mental Edge “I watched
my son the last two tourneys and he has really had great focus! It's
like he was like his old self prior to going to the U when I used to
watch him as a junior. It's like my real son is back! His progress
has been fun to watch. I hope you realize I think you really helped
and he does too! Thanks so much for your time and effort. You'll
always have a place in our family’s heart.”
~ Parent
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“What a difference a year can make. Last
September, as our son entered his junior year, he was working hard
but felt like he was spinning his wheels. His confidence was low and
he was second guessing himself in social situations, academics and
in hockey (on and off the ice). He was negative, confused and didn’t
think he could do anything about it. He was waiting for things to
happen and hoping for the best versus taking initiative and making
things happen. He felt unneeded pressure and was a classic victim.
As parents, we were frustrated, supportive but lacked the
perspective and training to effectively handle this situation. We
knew we needed help - someone that could uniquely connect with our
son and his issues. We wanted someone that would positively tell him
“truths” and could help him understand who he is, how he thinks and
works and give him tools for living his life.
We have to admit, when we picked up the phone to call you we were
apprehensive but figured it was worth a try. We had no idea how
profound the experience would be for him. Today, our son is more
confident and demonstrating a winning attitude. He is upbeat, an
initiator and fun to be around (usually – he is still a teenager).
He has been more positive and busy this summer – a night and day
difference from last summer. He is able to see beyond the moment,
set personal goals and be more proactive. He is often the initiator
when planning to hang out with friends or thinking about his future.
The biggest life tool however has been the ability to recognize and
reverse his self talk when he is in a slump. For example, when he
has a bad shift in hockey, he recognizes it and rather than
spiraling out of control he pulls himself out of it and can get back
on track. He can now make mistakes without becoming dysfunctional.
Another big change is - he plays for himself, not for his coaches,
us or others. He knows what he needs to do. He can listen and be
open to information and decide on the action.
It was fun to watch the process and the relationship develop between
you and our son. We don’t claim to understand it, nor do we need to
understand it because we see the results. He developed a confidence
and friendship that you clearly earned over the course of several
months. This confidence enabled him to trust and try the techniques
you were advocating. Your sessions were private. Sometimes he would
share information, mostly he didn’t.
One thing we could feel - was your passion for what you do. As
caring and involved (maybe too involved) parents, it was difficult
for us to back off, trust your process and be patient. We are glad
we did. We learned new parenting skills in the process (a bonus) –
backing off and giving up control, patience and how to be better
communicators with our teen. There is no silver bullet but your
approach is working for our kid at this time in his life. We are
grateful for your help and available to give you the highest
recommendation. Please thank Dawn as well – for her outstanding
communication and organizational skills. You make a great team!!”
~ Brad and Deb
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“When we first met Justin Johnson at a State
Bantam tournament a few years ago, he talked a little bit about The
Mental Edge. I remember thinking to myself, “This is exactly what my
son needs!” My son, Nolan, was one of our team’s two goaltenders. He
had good skills, but was struggling with confidence issues and was
having difficulty dealing with adversity. Having majored in
Psychology myself, I was keenly aware of the importance of mental
preparation. On the way home from the tournament, I talked with
Nolan about The Mental Edge. Always interested in improving his
game, he was very interested in trying it out.
All of Nolan’s goaltending training has been valuable, but The
Mental Edge training has clearly been the most effective. I sat back
and watched, with amazement, as his game consistently improved and
his own satisfaction with his performance visibly increased over the
next season. He was having fun again! Consequently, I became much
more relaxed at his games. I began to enjoy break-a-ways, because I
knew he was going to make the save!
At the end of the season, Nolan received a hand-written note from
his coach congratulating him on his performance during the season.
The coach went on to say, “Your consistency and confidence improved
constantly, as did your skills.” His team members and other parents
also noticed the difference.
Many of the mental strategies that he learned from Justin to improve
his athletic skills are also excellent life skills that have helped
him to become more assertive, responsible, and emotionally mature in
his personal life. The training he received from The Mental Edge was
not only the best investment I have ever made in my son’s athletic
career, but also his emotional development. I would strongly
recommend this program to any athlete, especially the youth. My son
and I are both very grateful that we found The Mental Edge.”
~ Ellen Paulseth, Parent
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“We wanted
to send you a thank you for the wonderful work you have done with
our son, Tyrone. Somewhere along the line, the pleasure and
enjoyment Ty got out of sports began to feel more like pressure. He
had a harder time focusing and felt frustrated with his performance.
Through the profile assessment and the individual sessions with you,
he learned tools to help him with positive thinking, managing
disappointment and diversity, focusing, and increasing his
confidence in all situations. He could apply these tools immediately
and see the results in all areas of his life… his grades, his
relationships with family, friends and teammates, and his sports
performance. Most of all, he’s having FUN again. You made an instant
connection with him and understood exactly what he was feeling. Your
honest and direct approach quickly built a high level of trust and
he valued you as a trainer and coach. We’ve spent a lot of money
over the years for sports training but the Mental Edge program was
definitely the best dollars for the results we ever invested in our
son.
Thanks to Justin Johnson for his coaching and guidance (especially
during the pre-tryout time) and to Dawn for keeping it all
organized. You have a fabulous program and we would be happy to be a
reference at any time.”
Colleen and Dan Simcoe
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Thank you for
being such caring and giving people! It is awesome for Jack to have
such a positive mentoring relationship!
Cheryl
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“I wanted to take a minute and reflect on the
time that you spent with Allison. I can’t tell you how much a change
we’ve seen in her since she started the program with you. She became
acutely aware of what issues that she needed to address if she
wanted to achieve the goals that she has for herself in hockey. She
has worked so hard on improving her physical skills – which she has,
but she really needed some focus on the mental part of the game;
both on and off the ice. You helped her so much in that area! She
feels that she is so much better prepared to handle the issues that
affected her in hockey, and I have really seen the difference in her
game since starting the program with you. As we both have told
Allison, this is just a beginning in developing a stronger mental
approach to the game, and that she has to consistently use the tools
that you gave her to continue improving her game.
What’s even better is the “blueprint” that you left her with in
which the both of you collaborated on, that will help her deal with
future situations as they arise. She now has the tools that will
help her better deal in the future with all the issues that affected
her play in the past.
From a parent’s point of view, it was great to have someone outside
the family with credibility to discuss these issues with her. She
readily accepted your ideas, guidance and counseling and again, the
results were outstanding. We know that we will be in touch again
with you soon to develop a “maintenance” program for her as she
continues down the path of achieving the high goals that she has for
herself.
Thanks so much for your time with Allison; she really enjoyed the
time she spent with you, and she feels, as my wife and I do, that
she really got a lot out of the Mental Edge program. Thanks again!”
Respectfully,
Don Micheletti |
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Our daughter’s sessions with Shaun have
definitely helped her deal with the many things she internalizes. We
have seen a 180 turn around in how she plays and maintains control,
I have not seen her ‘out of control’ attitude since summer before
she started seeing Shaun. Thank You a Million!
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For additional information regarding the newsletter articles or to
schedule an appointment
please call 763-439-5246 or simply email
Dawn@MentalEdgeNow.com
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